Parental resources and wellbeing

Prioritisation

You need to prioritise by doing only the necessary tasks and leave the rest for later. If the parents recognise their needs and take also those into account, they will find it easier to look after the family and themselves.

The baby senses her caregiver’s exhaustion and may feel insecure under the circumstances. If a parent realises he or she is getting overly tired, they need to ask for help in time. The so-called Four Table Leg Model may help parents to identify their capacities and wellbeing. Each of these sectors should be strong and in balance to the other three:

• Self
• Relationship with partner
• Parenthood
• Community

Rest always when you can and accept help. Remember that wellbeing relates to the balance between your mind, body and social relations. When everyday routines run effortlessly, parents have the capacity to support their children’s development and look after their own wellbeing and the wellbeing of their relationship as a couple.

• Be merciful to yourself as a parent. Think what is good enough parenting for you and your family.
• Remember your own wellbeing and do things you enjoy.
• Have some time exclusively for yourself and arrange for a childminder for the children.
• Take care of your relationship to your partner.
• If you are worried, talk about it to your close friends and family members or, for instance, your child health clinic nurse.